What to do when someone dies
A step-by-step handbook for everything that needs to happen after the death of a loved one.
What to Know About This Handbook
Find the timeframe that you're in. Start there.
Each timeframe in the handbook—from planning ahead, to the first day through the first year after a death—names the decisions, paperwork, and support that usually belong in that window. Religious and cultural traditions may also inform the decisions you need to make and when; a licensed funeral director or religious leader can help you navigate them.
This handbook is for you: the person planning, facilitating, or executing the logistics surrounding death. Whether you're a parent, grandparent, child, sibling, partner, spouse, friend, or planning ahead for yourself, we are here to help you navigate the necessary steps.
While comprehensive, this handbook is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It does not replace advice from licensed professionals. Every situation is different. Every state has different rules. Every estate has its own facts. We've noted where consultation with qualified professionals may be necessary. The Endings Company does not provide professional services such as funeral, cremation, burial, legal, financial, tax, medical, mental health, or other professional services.
Planning Ahead
Get key legal documents in place. Understand and articulate preferences.
Day 1
You don't have to do this alone. Establish key details. Transfer the body. Notify close family and friends.
Days 2–7
Understand and decide on body care (disposition). Order death certificates. Plan a service or gathering.
Weeks 2–4
Administrative work gets into full swing. Planning for a memorial or celebration of life may continue.
Months 1–3
Paperwork and estate administration continue. Grief can hit hard without all the distractions.
Months 3–6
Probate continues. The estate picture becomes clearer. Grief continues its ebbs and flows.
Months 6–12+
The estate closes, or continues toward closing. The first year of firsts unfolds.